Of Daughters and Fishes

Zero to Hero Day Twelve. Write a post that builds on a comment you left on another blog.

Claudette from if you’re looking for answers asked “Question 2 – The Eternal Fish” which prompted a comment from me followed by this post.

The fish in question
The fish in question

Recently I was faced with a moral dilemma. It was presented to me by the inadvertent abandonment of one little Siamese Fighting Fish into my keeping.

Is it immoral to “accidentally” allow said fish to expire somewhat sooner than the date which Fate has in mind for that particular activity for that particular fish?

I live with several cats…..if his fishbowl were left at cat level it could soon become empty and I would never even have to know whodunnit!

Except that a little over 20 years ago my 4-year-old son had a beautiful goldfish named Cleo whom the whole family loved and one night we came home from an outing to find Cleo gasping her last breath in the middle of the hallway floor. Although it truly was an accident – a bedroom door carelessly left ajar can often have unexpected consequences – I felt guilty for days.

I had failed that fish. Failed to protect her pretty little tortoise-colored sides from the ravages of kitty claws, failed to provide enough security to allow her to live long and prosper.

So how could I, even for a moment, consider abandoning this new little piscean guest to the same fate?

Well, I couldn’t, of course. Not really. I mean, I bought that fish to mark the celebration of my youngest daughter’s college graduation. Went thrifting with her in her little college downtown to find the perfect giant vase to turn into a fish bowl. Bought gravel, shells, fake plants, water conditioner, premium fishie food and a net for use when cleaning the bowl once a week.

But, of course, Your Honor, that was it. The motivation, I mean. I suddenly found myself responsible for that reprehensible task. The weekly cleaning of that fishbowl! The disgusting gunk that accumulates at the bottom of a fish bowl…..well, it’s fish poo, really, isn’t it? All mixed up with gooey uneaten fish food in the gravel at the bottom. And probably fish pee too because have you ever smelled that strong ammonia odor when pouring out the old water which probably should have been changed three weeks ago…….

Anyway — I couldn’t do it. Kill the fish that is. Instead I took some pictures of him and sent them off to Youngest Daughter who moved to Los Angeles seven months ago. Packed all her worldly possessions into her other graduation present and drove cross-country to pursue Her Dream. About three hours after she left on that four-day-drive my phone rang. It was Youngest, breathless, bordering on tears.

“I forgot Poseidon!” she gulped. I frowned and looked around the kitchen. “Should I come back for him? Can you mail him to me? What should I do?” she wailed.

“Visit him at Christmas,” I answered firmly and that was how I came to be fish-sitting this particular critter. Who is actually very social…for a fish. And who greets me cheerily every day when I climb up to the top of the bookcase where he resides in order to sprinkle food into his bowl. Sometimes when I talk he swims over to take a look at me. And he’s very smart…..for a fish. So I guess the little guy is safe for a while.

Clearly, I’m hooked.

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The Liebster Award!

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I’ve been away for awhile and out of touch with the blogosphere due to an interruption from Real Life.  While I was gone I was nominated for a Liebster Award by four —- count ’em —- FOUR Fabulous Bloggers! I am so humbly honored, thanks to all four of you!

Click on these links to visit the awesome blogs of my Four Fab Nominators:
Life in Poetry
Maria Brinkley, artist
in the life of sara sandoval
The Odd Things

The Liebster Award is given to up and coming bloggers who have less than 200 followers in order to promote their blog and bring together a community of bloggers. The word Liebster is German and means sweetest, kindest, nicest, dearest, beloved, lovely, kind, pleasant, valued, cute, endearing, and welcome. I especially like that “welcome” part as we send this award around the blogosphere to newcomers. Blogging is about building a community and this is a great way to connect with other bloggers and help spread the word about their blogs.

The rules of the award are as follows:

The nominated blogger must provide a link back to the person(s) who nominated them and also complete the following requirements:

  • Provide 11 facts about themselves
  • Answer 11 questions from the person(s) who nominated you
  • Choose 11 other bloggers to nominate and ask them 11 questions
  • Inform the new nominees they’ve won and send link!

ELEVEN FACTS ABOUT ME:  

  1. I love to read! Eventually I will be adding a “what I’m reading now” page to my blog. 
  2. I hate scary movies.  If I accidentally end up watching one I put my splayed fingers up in front of my face and peer through the gaps. 
  3. My BMI indicates that I am about a foot too short. 
  4. My favorite online gaming platform is WOW where I am a shaman, a mage, a  druid, a healer and a hunter. 
  5. One day I will own a lovely little cottage on a lake and spend the entire summer there every year. 
  6. I hate housework and I’m a lousy cook.  Somehow my family survived.
  7. I speak both Pig Latin and Parseltongue.  Depending on your age you should recognize one of them. 
  8. Favorite foods include Pizza, Spaghetti, and Lasagna.
  9. I might have been an Italian Princess in a former life….
  10. Currently trying a Paleo (and thus also gluten-free) lifestyle.  Very Sad (see number 8 above.)
  11. I saw a ghost once.  Really.  

And now for the questions from my Fab Four. Because there are so many of them I will be answering two to three questions from each nominator rather than boring you with my 44 amazing answers…….And because I am inherently lazy I will be providing answers only rather than typing out each question.  I leave it to your imagination, dear reader, to figure out what the questions were. 

  1. My least favorite subject in school was Math – any kind of math.  Because the Right hemisphere of my brain always overpowers the Left and Math is definitely buried deep within the obtuse left side. 
  2. A hobby I really enjoy is photography.  I’m saving my pocket change for a Canon EOS Rebel. It’s going to take a lot of change! 
  3. My best birthday memory is a surprise birthday party when I was 10. 
  4. Something which I’ve always owned and still have is a stuffed dog.  I suppose he was my version of a “blankie.”  All of his stuffing was long ago flattened away with hugs and he’s turned yellow with age.  He lives in a box on my closet shelf and I would never dream of getting rid of him.
  5. My favorite flowers are Hydrangeas because they remind me of my Grandmother. 
  6. I was named after my mother’s sister.  My name means “nobly born.”
  7. My favorite television show – Scandal.
  8. My most prized piece of knowledge: “However good or bad a situation is now, it will change.” 
  9.  If a woodchuck could, and would, chuck wood, a woodchuck could chuck a good chunk of wood, should and could a woodchuck go chuck wood – that’s how much wood a woodchuck would chuck if a woodchuck would chuck wood. 
  10. Least liked housework chore is Floors.  Vacuuming, sweeping, scrubbing…..you name it, I hate it! 
  11. Favorite travel destination – London.  I’ve been twice so far and would love to go back and live there for a few months. 

The Eleven Blogs I Am Nominating for a Liebster Award: 

Artfully Aspiring 

If You Are Looking for Answers

Tangent Lass  

A Country Mile 

Someday Means Never

Euphonic Charity

Making it Up As I Go Along, Trying to Think It Through

Love Happy Notes

I Am Creative by Design

Looking Glass Mama

Dragon Droppings

 

Eleven questions from me to my nominees:

  1. How long have you been blogging? 
  2. If you could be a Disney character who would you be and why?
  3. You are moving to a new house in a new town and can only take five things with you – what do you choose? (People and pets and the necessities of life like food and clothes don’t count.)
  4. Title of the last book you read?  Title of the first book you read by yourself?
  5. Favorite television show when you were a child?
  6. Do you believe in ghosts?  Why or why not?
  7. What Inspires you?
  8. Do you have pets?  Why or why not?
  9. Name three people, one living, one dead and one fictional,  whom you would like to invite to a dinner party. 
  10. Of all the days in your life you get to live one over again.  Which one do you pick and what happened on that day?
  11. The world would be a better place if____________________________. 

Begin (Again) Now

Zero to Hero Day Six: Write to your Dream Reader

If you want to go somewhere, you have to start from where you are now.
If you wish to finish a task, you have to start it first.
If you yearn for an accomplishment not yet achieved, you have to start somewhere.

Begin where you are now
You don’t have to start at the beginning
These may seem like ridiculous or obvious statements; and yet it is often just starting which proves to be the most difficult part of a task we give ourselves. Whether we are not sure of the best plan or doubt the possibility of a successful outcome; we often continue to put off that first step.

Don’t get stuck by letting yourself believe that you have to start at the beginning. Begin right where you are now. If there doesn’t appear to be a natural place to start — or if there appear to be too many places to start — don’t sit around worrying about making the “right choice.” Making any choice is better than inaction.

Just start – and you will be surprised at how a plan emerges once you get going. There will be challenges and probably mistakes will be made. But as you solve the challenges and fix the mistakes you move ever closer to the goal.

The first step on any journey begins right here, right now. And the next step will be there when you need it. As every step leads to the next, the journey builds its own momentum and carries you forward along with it.

So if you are looking for new, or better, possibilities in your life don’t waste time trying to come up with the best and only plan. Start right where you are and move forward with confidence in your ability to get to a successful outcome.

50,000 and Counting

Zero to Hero Day Three – Write the Post that was on your mind when you decided to start a blog.

 

I have more than 50,000 messages in my email Inbox.

Really.  More than 50,000.  The counter actually says 49,999+.  But I’m pretty sure it is considerably more than 50,000. These emails go all the way back to 2008 – the year in which I just stopped. The year in which I stopped doing everything that was not absolutely vital to sustaining life.  Including managing my life……..

Ramsey Creative CommonsMost especially managing my life. 

This ridiculous situation, in which my hoarded emails now strain the seams of my little chunk of the online universe, seems to have become a metaphor of sorts for my life in general over the past five years. The lost years. 

You can read a tiny bit about the why of the lost years on my About page if you like…but the why doesn’t really matter so much right now.  Right now what matters is that I seem to have finally come back to find myself, armed with the realization that it is time to begin again.  

But where to begin?  There are so many choices it is overwhelming.  So the metaphor of the emails seem as good a place as any.   

I’ll let you know how it goes.   

 

Zero to Hero Indeed

Well this is hardly what I would call an auspicious start.

I’m participating in the Zero to Hero challenge at WordPress.com and yesterday I wrote a brilliant first post – or so I thought. But now it is gone. Just gone. I was waiting to publish it until after “sleeping on it” and planned to do some revisions this A.M. But it is no longer within the WordPress Universe and I am, let us be honest here, a wee bit frustrated.

I’ve spent well over an hour reading everything I can find about how to restore posts from auto save and how to find all of my revisions, which theoretically are stored for 30 days deep within the bowels of the WordPress Beast. Oh, how my heart leapt with joy at that news!

But……nothing. Not only does my post no longer exist, it seems that it never did exist. There are no revisions to find. In fact — although I have meticulously compared my screen with the “Help” version of the findyourrevisionsheresillygirl page I’ve discovered that MY version of that screen looks EXACTLY like the one pictured on the Help page with the sole difference being THERE IS NO REVISIONS BUTTON!!!

Ok, ok, if I’m being really honest here I have to say I’m a LOT frustrated right now.

And between the writing of the Brilliant first post yesterday and the futile attempt to find it again today, I have lost about three hours of my precious time which could have easily been better spent watching reruns of Juan Pablo trying to get his fifteen minutes of fame without having to risk saying the “L” word much less proposing marriage on national television. But I digress.

I’ve considered putting in a HELP request or spending some more time “searching” for a solution amongst the myriad options on WordPress or the web. But at this point it seems more logical to just let it go.

Even though it really was exactly the kind of first post I wanted to write; a nice little intro with some smile-worthy humor that set the tone I wanted and explained that I’m here to have fun and learn how to blog and I’ll be writing about lifestyle, self-improvement and random things that catch my fancy (Ooooo shiny!) and while this morning I can remember two or three brilliant lines I can’t for the life of me recall how the original post started or what was in the middle or how it ended…and maybe that is because I wrote it late at night and was pretty tired at the time and I’m brand new to WordPress and this blogging stuff and so I can’t be expected to remember exactly what I was doing, much less the way I was slinging words together…and it’s possible that I am mis-remembering that I saved it at all…or maybe I saved it in that one way that doesn’t really save anything…or maybe I just thought I saved it…and if that’s the case then that could mean that it will never be recovered and so to spend any more time searching for something which doesn’t really exist would be silly and besides I am so tired today that…….Hmmmm.

It couldn’t possibly be operator error. Couldn’t. Possibly. Be.

But you could say that I have nailed the “Zero” part of this challenge really well, don’t you think?

(And the first post I wrote was WAY better than this one. Trust me.)